I am not very good at accepting compliments.
My brain doesn’t know how to process them which is silly because receiving a compliment should be a relatively simple process:
1. Receive compliment.
2. Thank person who gave you the compliment.
3. Enjoy boost in self-esteem produced by compliment.
However, I tend to be quite self-critical and therefore I sometimes struggle to align compliments with my vision of myself.
As a result, whenever I receive a compliment, I tend to freak out and do everything in my power to deflect it.
I am trying to get better at handling compliments by reframing how I perceive them.
After all, a compliment is basically a verbal gift.
If someone bought you a physical gift, refusing to accept it and saying ‘no this is not right for me TAKE IT BACK’ would be incredibly rude.
Therefore, even if you don’t 100% agree with a compliment, you should just accept it anyway – out of respect for the person giving the compliment and also yourself.